Why do I Hate My Life?

"I hate my life!"

This is something everyone has said once in a while. Well, there are others who say it all the time!

Remember the time
when dreams were young
and spirits were high!

As the years roll on, it suddenly hits you that life has turned out to be different from what you had dreamed of. You suddenly wake up to the realization that you are lagging behind. A sense of frustration may try to creep in, but you somehow keep the flame burning in the hope that your dream may come to pass some day.

You say to yourself, "It has not happened yet, but it will happen." You put on the better-late-than-never attitude and talk yourself into thinking positive. That's all nice and fine; however, you must never lose touch of reality.

There's something inside you saying, "I hate my life!" but you stifle that voice and try to put up a bold front.

How Life Turned Out To Be 

Yeah, all you guys would love to be tall and muscular; have more money in your pockets and more hair on your heads. Girls wish they'd never have to cross 17 and would love to freeze into timeless beauties (a little exaggeration here).

Remember the time when dreams were young and spirits were high! You had dreamed to reach the skies. However, time and tide have left their unsightly marks. Life has taken its coarse, making you submit to its devices.

If life did not turn out the way it did,
you would be half the person you are today
and twice the weakling you were yesterday.

When Dreams Don't Turn Into Reality
When dreams don't turn into reality, don't say, "I hate my life!"

Rather ask yourself the following questions:

• Was I a realistic dreamer, or just a mellow eyed dreamer?
• Did I have a game plan?
  
• How hard did I work towards my goals?
• Am I willing to continue working hard?
  

When Life's not going Your Way
When life's not going your way, there are a few things that you must realize:

• You've tried your best
• It's not your fault
• You cannot reverse the course of life
• You may be standing at the TURNING POINT OF YOUR LIFE

So don't say, "I hate my life!"

Remember that if life did not turn out the way it did, you would be half the person you are today and twice the weakling you were yesterday.

You will soon see that
the things you can control
far outweigh the things you can't.

What to Do
So what must one do? Worry about it? If worrying would make an inkling of a difference, it would be time to start a worry club. However, there are better things to do.

First let's accept it: You cannot control everything!!!

If you think that you can control every aspect of your life just as you have read in those self help books, it's time to get real. The truth is that you can't !

Rather, focus on things that you can control. Take a piece of paper and write down just 10 things that are in your control- simple and straightforward things. You will soon see that the things you can control far outweigh the things you can't.

10 Things That I Can Control

1. Sleep on time and wake up early
2. Make time to exercise
3. Buy a new set of clothes
4. Visit the beauty parlor
5. Look for a new job
6. Don't delay things for tomorrow
7. Make a phone call to someone special
8. Strive to be the best spouse you can be
   
9. Say "Sorry", "Thank You", "I Love You"
10. Add to this list...
    

Some of us need to keep pursuing our dreams while some of us need to start afresh! Do whatever it takes to stop saying, "I hate my life," and you will realize that there's much more to life than what you can perceive.

-ContentScoop
August 31, 2009

Self Confidence Building Tips

The world around us dictates to us about how we should think and act. The media influences us to a great extent, and to add to all this, our friends and relatives lay out the commandments which we must abide by. As a result there is a war raging within us- a war between what we want to be and what others want us to be. This takes its toll on our self image and ultimately on our self confidence.

'there is a war raging within us-
a war between what we want to be
and what others want us to be'

The following self confidence building tips will help you in five ways:
1) To rediscover yourself
2) To develop a deep sense of self respect
3) To stop feeling guilty about who you are
4) To express to the world who you truly are
5) To make the right choices in keeping with your character

Redefine Your Self Image
You can’t make everyone happy. If you try to please your friends, partner and family, you may end up getting frustrated. You can’t hold yourself responsible for the way everyone feels about you. So stop defining your self image by what others say, and define it according to what pleases you. Self confidence building begins with being what you want to be, and not what others want you to be.

Redefine your Public Image
Your self image is how you view yourself, but your public image is how you want others to view you. If you build an artificial public image based on the expectations and ideals of others, you will struggle to live up to it. This will lead to unhappiness and low self esteem. Self confidence building involves giving up the artificial image and being real. Show the world what you really are, whether they like it or not.

Know and Develop Your Gift
If you have suppressed any talent so far, it’s time to develop it. It need not be something great and glorious, but something as simple as the art of cartooning or writing. That’s your gift to the world. Use your strengths to excel in your personal and your professional relationships. Your gift can contribute to a great extent in the self confidence building process.

Focus on Your Strengths
Once you are no longer afraid to be real, people will see your weaknesses. That’s OK. Everyone has their weakness. Don’t focus on your weaknesses, but rather focus on your strengths. You will see that your strengths far outweigh your weaknesses, bringing in a positive frame of mind and increasing your self confidence.

Redefine Your Idea of Success
If becoming the President of America meant success for Obama, success could mean something entirely different to you. This does not mean that you must not think big. It just means that you must not compare your definition of success to that of others. Success could mean achieving something that makes you and your loved ones happy. Self confidence building involves redefining what success means to you.

'It does not come naturally.
You must make it happen!'

In conclusion, self confidence building has a lot to do with being happy. Also, it does not come naturally. You must make it happen. If you follow the above mentioned tips, you will find yourself being a happy and confident person.